Loss is a universal human experience that ironically none of us are ever prepared or taught how to navigate. Our culture has a bias towards birth, re-generation and joy despite the fact that we will all experience death, separation and grief in our life. For men loss and grieving are particularly profound as we lack the vocabulary and awareness to know what we are feeling and we lack the tools and knowledge to mourn in healthy ways.
These are our top 5 books recommendations to help you, or someone you love, with loss and grief.
1. On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler 2005
This is the bible for grief and grieving and we believe that everyone at some point in their life needs to read this book which lays out the path and process of how we honour and let a loved one go.
2. It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok by Megan Devine 2017
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is an ode for grieving people, those who care about them, and all those in a search for how to love oneself―and each other―better.
3. Coping With Grief, 4th ed. by Dianne McKissock and Mal McKissock 2018
Written for those who are mourning and their support team, Coping With Grief explains what we can expect emotionally, psychologically and practically from day one to the end of year one, as well as how and why men and women react differently, how children process grief and some of the downstream impacts of bereavement.
4. Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief by Joanne Cacciatore 2017
Organized into a year’s worth of weekly chapters, Bearing the Unbearable is that best friend for life’s deeply challenging times, revealing how loss and grief will open us up for connection, compassion, and the very essence of what makes us all human.
5. Resilient Grieving: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything by Lucy Hone 2017
Resilient Grieving offers an empowering model to the five-stage Kübler-Ross process of grief—and reveals our innate space for personal and emotional growth after the shock and hurt of a deep loss.