The Mens’ List Directory is a listing of mental health professionals across the United States and Canada who provide high quality, gender competent services to men. This directory is not at all complete or final, and is only meant to provide you with a place to start if you are looking for mental health support in your area. Please note that having a listing in the directory does not mean that the mental health provider is endorsed in any way by The Mens’List. You are encouraged to visit their websites and to check with the professional licensing bodies in your state or province to make sure that the provider is licensed, in good standing, and eligible to practice in your state or province.
April 30, 2019
An estimated 322 million people are living with symptoms of depression worldwide. In the United States alone, that translates to almost 7 percent of the adult population. On top of that, an estimated 3.2 million American adolescents suffer from the condition. While society is more open now than it ever has been before, many men […]
April 30, 2019
If there’s one thing that men seem to foolishly take pride in, it’s not sleeping enough. Missing a night’s sleep is almost as much a badge of honor for some guys as the work they were supposed to be doing with their night. Sure, some guys are grinding away at work at night and miss […]
April 20, 2019
Let’s face it, we all face stress. It’s the body’s natural way of trying to regulate both internal and external factors that pose a threat to your wellbeing. However, not all stress is created equal. Cognitive behavioral therapy may be your only hope in combatting mounting stress in your life. With that in mind, it’s […]
April 13, 2019
Alcoholism and alcohol abuse has a devastating impact on people all over the world. Studies show that nearly 6 percent of all global deaths could be attributed to alcohol consumption in 2015 and the World Health Organization reported that drinking had a major hand in more than 200 devastating diseases and health conditions. Some of […]
For me, it was receiving a text from a client letting me know that a colleague of his, another man, had committed suicide. We had spoken about his friend in an earlier session and my client had expressed his sadness, fear and concern about his friend and had asked if I would reach out. I did reach out, twice, and hadn’t received a response. And, now, less than forty eight hours later, the man had taken his own life.
When it comes to our health and more specifically our mental health, we men struggle to help ourselves. Our psychological and emotional landscapes are rarely places we set foot on, let alone question. “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”, is the phrase about our mental health I’ve heard most often in the mens’ groups I have facilitated over the years. This approach of ‘fixing’ ourselves only when we notice a problem is a form of reactive thinking and truth be told, by the time we realize there is a problem and we actually admit it to ourselves and others – it’s likely too late for a band-aid or quick fix. Rapid relief is also something men tend to seek when it comes to mental or emotional pain – “Fix me up and let me get back at it,” is a phrase I hear men say since, as men we under appreciate the complexity and impact of our mental and emotional health.
So, it should come as no surprise to you or any man for that matter that when we’re ready to take the step of seeking help and support for our mental health that finding the right person to work with is equally if not more difficult.
Who do you ask, who can you talk to in order to find the right person? Do you talk to a friend? Ask your GP? Open up to your partner or spouse? Book some time with your manager or boss? Look online? This is how many men around the globe begin the search for help and along the way they find it a frustrating, or even an embarrassing process. And despite an increase in awareness of mens’ mental health issues – thanks to articles and stories in the popular media – the stigma of seeking help, then participating in a process of support is still a powerful barrier for most guys.
And on top of this we’re dealing with a crisis of over medication – anti-depressants, anti-anxietals, as medical professionals are over prescribing rather than making it easier to refer patients to counselling for treatment. Medications as an assist or support can be invaluable – but on their own, they are not the solution. Research has shown that treatment protocols which include both medication and counselling offer the greatest long term, sustainable benefits for patients.
You see I know all of this because I have lived these experiences not only as a therapist but also, years ago, as a man looking for help. My life turned around and I began to climb up and out of the dark hole I was in when a friend, who could see that I was suffering, offered me a way out. “I know a guy, who can help you,” he said. “He helped me and I have hope back in my life now – I’ll connect the two of you. Just make sure you call him.”
It was that easy. I hadn’t asked for help directly and it was my friend who took the risk of extending a helping hand – all I had to do was accept his offer.
This is the idea, or better yet, the aim behind The Mens’ List. This site is a helping hand for men who are looking for a way out of the pain of their mental or emotional health. We’re going to take the risk of going first with articles and discussion about the mental health issues of greatest concern to guys. We’re going to talk about these issues in a way that normalizes them – because they are normal – for all of us. The Mens’ List is also a directory of professionals who have an expertise or interest, or practise focus in supporting and helping men. We want to make it easier for you to get the help you need, when you need it, and also steer other men who need a hand out of a hole find their way back to living a healthier life.
The Mens’ List is the second step. Step one is knowing you need help.